Kathea7173, 76

What is Maturity? Maturity is not a number. I usually date men who are younger than I am and I've mostly figured out why. For one thing, my interests are not "age appropriate". My (grown) kids tease that I need to join the "I can't believe you're interested in this at your age" group. My love of PC games, alternative music, gadgets, and other interests are uncommon among people my age. When I go to a concert where there's a Goth crowd, I'm usually the oldest person there--by a lot. Also, I'm quite independent and not a proponent of gender roles. This is something that men my age don't usually know how to react to. Sure, I enjoy having my door opened and someone to carry the heavy stuff and reach the stuff on those high shelves. I'll also cook and tend to be nurturing. But it's my choice not my role. I'm not interested in dating children of any age (and, yes, I've dated some children in their 60s--once). I just refuse to let numbers dictate what I do and who I'm with. This doesn't mean I'm going to date someone in their 20s or 30s. I want to "mother" people that age and that's not good for dating at all. Same goes for race, wealth, occupation, etc. I'm probably one of the most non-judgmental people you'll find and people seek me out and tell me their secrets for a reason--they stay with me and go no further. And I don't judge them for the secrets. Kindness and respect go a long way and without them most of what we're looking for is missing.